We can operate on the cat/box/sensor/particle system with a quantum operator if we like. And, if I may be a bit informal with it, the system after interaction might be $|\text{cat}_{after}\rangle=a|\text{alive}\rangle+b|\text{dead}\rangle+c|\text{wierd}\rangle$$|\text{cat}_{after}\rangle=a|\text{alive}\rangle+b|\text{dead}\rangle+c|\text{weird}\rangle$, where $a$ $b$ and $c$ are just real numbers. The $|\text{alive}\rangle$ handles the cases which are handled intuitively as having an alive cat, $|\text{dead}\rangle$ handles the cases which are handled intuitively as having a dead cat, and $|\text{wierd}\rangle$$|\text{weird}\rangle$ lumps together all of the really wonky cases where quantum mechanics says one thing where our intuition says another. One of the great things about the bra-ket notation that physicists like to use is I can use it to correctly capture a system, even when using really oddball states like "wierd"weird."
So now we come back to the detector. This detector could have been any system really. There's more interesting things to throw into a box with a cat, but the experiment calls for a detector. And, hand-waving emphatically, one aspect of a good detector in physics land is that it minimizes the probability of any weird things happening. Using the above equation, we try to design sensors in such a way that, for any interaction one may wish to do with the system (opening the box, or any quantum operator), the constant $c$ in $c|\text{wierd}\rangle$$c|\text{weird}\rangle$ is vanishingly small ($c\approx 0$). A sensor which doesn't have this property is a pretty poor sensor, and I would no longer be comfortable with the intuitive idea that it "detects" the radioactive isotope decaying.
Now you can construct more interesting experiments with things other than nice clean detectors. And you can start to see quantum effects at the macroscopic level. There's an entire approach to QM around studying "decoherence" which handles this in a statistically rigorous way and does a good job predicting the results of more odd systems that permit more $|\text{wierd}\rangle$$|\text{weird}\rangle$ through by design. For example, there's a whole approach of using "weak measurements" which are measurements designed to not disturb "weirdness" that was already happening in the experiment. But in this case we can comfortably say the detector "collapsed" the wave form. And, approaching the topic through the idea of decoherence, we can even show why that term is valid: we intentionally designed the detector to "collapse" the weird part of the waveform into a vanishingly small part.