Consider a parallel-plate capacitor. Charge is stored physically on electrodes ("plates") which are flat and parallel to one another. If one electrode has charge $+Q$ and the other electrode has charge $-Q$, and $V$ is the potential difference between the electrodes, then the capacitance $C$ is $$C = \frac{Q}{V}$$
(This definition of $C$ is given in, for example, Introduction to Electrodynamics by David J. Griffiths.)
But, now, let's think about the energy stored in the electric field between the electrodes of this parallel-plate capacitor. As stated in Griffiths on page 105, "How much work $W$ does it take to charge the capacitor up to a final amount $Q$?" It turns out that $W$ is $$W = \frac{1}{2} CV^2$$
So:
(i) the capacitor's capacitance $C$ goes like $\frac{1}{V}$; and
(ii) the energy $W$ stored in the electric field goes like $V^2$.
Are statements (i) and (ii) at odds with one another? I am sure that they cannot be. But conceptually I am having difficulty.
We desire high capacitance -- we want to put as much charge on the electrodes as possible, because if we accomplish this, then I think that will increase the energy density of the system. But is what I just said true?
If we manage to increase $Q$, then by $V = \frac{Q}{C}$, the potential difference $V$ between the plates will also increase. This, I think, is why capacitor electrodes are separated by a material (such as a polarizable dielectric material like a slab of plastic); otherwise $V$ will become too large and the breakdown voltage will be reached, generating a spark.
But, now, the equation $W = \frac{1}{2} CV^2$ (where I think that $W$ can be conceptualized as the energy stored in the electric field between the electrodes) seems to say that as $V$ increases, so does the energy $W$, quadratically.
So, my question is, do we want a capacitor to have a large potential difference $V$ or a small potential difference $V$? If $V$ is large, then $W$ is large (which we want), but $C$ is small (which we do not want).
Am I somehow thinking of two different potential differences $V$ and confusing them?
